Understanding the Purpose and Power of Men

Understanding the Purpose and Power of Men

while females want to know how to get there. These tenden cies are why men usually remember the gist of a matter, while women often remember the details and overlook or even misconstrue the gist. Men are interested in the prin ciple, the abstract, the philosophy. They see the general di rection they need to go in spiritually, and they head toward it. As long as they know what they believe, they don‘t always see the need for activities designed to help them arrive at their goal. However, women like to be involved in the process. They will attend prayer meetings and Bible studies, read Christian books, and participate more in the life of the church because it will help them grow spiritually. Men and women can bring balance to one another in both material and spiritual things by helping each other to keep visions and goals clearly in mind while identifying the steps that are necessary to accomplish them effectively. A man‘s job is an extension of his personality, whereas a woman‘s home is an extension of hers. This difference can cause much conflict in relationships. For instance, a woman may want her husband to spend time with her at home, whereas he can enjoy working twelve hours a day away from the home because he‘s cultivating something that is a reflection of who he is. He needs to work in order to feel ful filled. Remember that when a man loses his job, it can be devastating to his self-esteem because he considers his job to be almost synonymous with himself. A woman places high value on her physical surround ings and on creating a home. Men don‘t understand why women become upset when they put their muddy running shoes on the kitchen table or track sawdust in the living room after it has just been vacuumed. Men are not trying to be inconsiderate; they just don‘t think in the same terms that women do. Because a woman identifies herself with her home, sometimes she feels as if the sawdust has been A man identifies with his job. A woman identifies with her home. 6. Differences in Personality and Self-Perception

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