Understanding the Purpose and Power of Men

Understanding the Purpose and Power of Men

If men and women aren‘t careful, they will come to t he wrong conclusions about each other‘s true intentions, without knowing what the woman is really thinking or the man is really feeling. This error has caused many people to think that their marriages or relationships aren‘t working. Once they understand these differences, however, they can exercise patience and endeavor to come to the heart of the matter. Both men and women will experience great satis faction when they are truly listened to and appreciated. When a man listens to spoken language, he considers it a process by which he receives information. However, for the female, it is an emotional experience. A man will hear a verbal communication and conclude that it is either useful or worthless, true or untrue, logical or illogical. It is all facts and information to him. However, because a woman is an ―emotional feeler,‖ she evaluates both the verbal and nonverbal communication she receives and perceives from the world around her. She not only rece ives thoughts and ideas into her being but also transforms them as she processes them. When a woman receives in formation, she assesses it both mentally and emotionally at the same time. The male generally uses these functions separately. Her emotions are with her all the time she is thinking, and this influences her perspective on the world around her as well as what is communicated to her. When a man and woman learn that they comprehend the spoken word in distinct ways, they can tailor their com munication styles to match the way the other best receives and processes information. This method will bring about im proved understanding and eliminate much stress in relation ships. A man and woman can also broaden their perspectives by asking the other what he or she thought of various people and circumstances they have both encountered. The Heard Word

4. Differences in Problem-Solving

Men are often like filing cabinets. That is, they make de cisions quickly and ―file‖ them away in their minds. Or they

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