Understanding the Purpose and Power of Men

Male-Female Differences

from being blindsided as he single-mindedly pursues his goals and objectives. On the other hand, the man‘s linear thinking helps the woman not to become so enmeshed in the many layers of her multi-dimensional thinking and emotions that she loses sight of the goal and never reaches it. Instead of dismissing each another as ―unfeeling‖ or ―emotional,‖ men and woman need to appreciate their unique perspec tives, which can greatly benefit one another.

3. Differences in Speaking and Hearing Language

The Spoken Word

When a male speaks, it is generally an expression of what he is thinking. When a female speaks, it is usually an expression of what she is feeling. They are communicating two completely different types of information. Women often don‘t understand how very hard it is for men to express their feelings. It‘s very important for a woman

not to come to any firm conclusions about a man‘s motiv a tion for what he‘s saying until she discovers what he‘s feeling. There are many men who are feeling emotions that they have diffi culty verbalizing. A woman needs to learn to create an environment that

A man says

what he

thinks. A

woman says

what she

feels.

will enable a man to tell her what he is feeling. When she works through his thinking, she will find out what he is feel ing —and she will discover that what he‘s feeling is often very different from what he‘s been sa ying. In contrast, a woman doesn‘t always tell a man what she‘s thinking. If she becomes emotional, he needs to be p a tient and work through her e motions to find out what she‘s thinking. Sometimes, he has to dig deep to find out what is actually on her mind — because what a woman is thinking is often different from what she is saying. This process can take patience on the part of the man, because he wants just the facts and likes to quickly arrive at the bottom line. A woman is thinking on a variety of levels, however, and it takes her longer to process all these details and arrive at a conclusion.

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