Understanding the Purpose and Power of Men

Understanding the Purpose and Power of Men

with one another, they build understanding, companion ship, and intimacy in their marriage. The Female’s Need for Conversation Because males have a leadership mindset, sometimes their conversations with their wives amount to instructions rather than a give-and-take dialogue. A woman desires to have a man talk with her, not at her. Some men say, ―What am I going to talk about with my wife?‖ They don‘t realize that a woman has a need to express herself and therefore has much within her that she wants to share. The man can fulfill a woman‘s need for intimate co n versation by continually making a point to communicate with her. To truly meet her need, he should talk with her at the feeling level and not just the knowledge and information level. She needs him to listen to her attitudes about the events of her day with sensitivity, interest, and concern, re sisting the impulse to offer solutions. Instead, he should of fer his full attention and understanding. A man should conduct his end of the conversation with courtesy and open ness, telling her what he really thinks and feels. A male needs to share his interests, and a female needs conversation: these related needs can be a wonderful bridge of communication between men and women. As we saw in the previous chapter, the male is almost always ready sexually. A man‘s need for sex is one of the strongest needs imaginable. It is an aspect of his makeup that gives him great fulfillment. Therefore, it is important for a woman to be sensitive to her husband‘s need for sex. Sometimes, a woman sees a man‘s sexual energy as animalistic and thoughtless. If his approach is too abrupt or too aggressive, she may tell him to leave her alone. There are also times when she is not ready for sexual relations because of her cycle, so she will put him off. In these situations, the man may interpret her refusals as disinterest or disrespect, instead of recognizing the underlying reasons behind them. On the other hand, some women pay more attention to church activities than they do to their husbands. In a sense, The Male’s Need for Sex

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