Understanding the Purpose and Power of Men

Understanding the Purpose and Power of Men

The other day I counseled a forty-year-old man who was sexually abusing his thirteen-year- old daughter. Here‘s this

man, with all his strength, abusing a girl who is his own flesh. She can‘t cry out or fight because he‘s too strong for her. He‘s supposed to use his strength to protect her from the very thing he‘s doing. Sometimes males wonder why

God gave

men strength to protect — not abuse.

so many women have problems with men. It is because a man‘s strength is frightening to them. They grew up seeing this strength being used against them or their mothers — instead of for them, as it was intended to be used.

2. A Logical Thinker

Second, God created the male as a logical thinker. This enables him to face difficulties and danger with a clear mind and without emotional distractions, so that he can find solutions to these problems. How does he exercise this logical thinking? A male scrutinizes. He checks out people and things be fore making a decision about them. For example, men usual ly don‘t join a church right away. They will sit in the back and observe. They will examine things to see if what‘s going on is real. They will wait to see if the pastor is genuine. Women accept things more quickly, but men scrutinize. A male also analyzes. To analyze means not only to see something, but also to try to interpret what it means. A woman will see a healing and say, ―That‘s a miracle,‖ but a man will say, ―Miracle? I don‘t think she was sick at all. She was just sick in her mind.‖ He analyzes things. That‘s just the way men are. Third, a male is very precise in his planning. A man will look at something and plan how he will approach it. Women can be spontaneous, but men will consider things and say, ―If I go in there, I have to make sure this is okay.‖ Fourth, a male thinks of consequences. ―When I do this, I can do that,‖ or ―If they do that, I can do this.‖ He looks at opportunities, results, and outcomes of actions.

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