Understanding the Purpose and Power of Men

Understanding the Purpose and Power of Men

loaf. But most men aren‘t like that. If a wife tells a husband he doesn‘t need to buy her groceries, that she doesn‘t need him to do anything for her anymore, she‘s dealing a blow to an essential part of his being. If you are a women who is educated and has a good job, you need to be careful. You may be tempted to say — or at least to imply —to your husband, ―I don‘t need you or an y thing you have. You‘re lucky I married you.‖ You don‘t know how this affects him. The man is designed to be a provider; therefore, no matter how much money you earn, make sure you keep encouraging him as a provider. Do it in a way that he doesn‘t even know you‘re doing it. Then let him bless you with what he gives you. Whenever a man feels like he isn‘t providing, you will probably have an unhappy household. Many women don‘t understand the mental, emoti onal, and spiritual effect that losing a job has on a man. They because it‘s not just a job to them. It‘s their means of provi d ing. One of their purposes for being has been taken away from them. When a man thinks, ―I can‘t provide,‖ he sometimes skips town. Some men can‘t handle that kind of pressure, so they run from responsibility. Maybe the man has six kids and can‘t feed them. He feels useless; he feels like a failure, so he leaves. We call his behavior neglectful or irresponsible. Although this behavior is wrong, we must realize that the man is dealing with something internal that he may not un derstand, something fundamental to his being. Suppose a man calls his wife and says, ―Sweetheart, I have some bad news for yo u. I just got laid off from my job.‖ This is how some women would react: ―I‘m not surprised. You haven‘t been able to hold a job for the last six months. When a man loses his job, it’s as if his life has fallen apart. cannot fully understand, because they are not designed to be providers; they are de signed to be producers. When a man loses his job, it‘s as if his life has fallen apart. Some men actually end up losing their minds after they lose their jobs. Why do they have such an extreme reaction? It‘s

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