Understanding the Purpose and Power of Men

The Male as Teacher and Cultivator

It is your job to cultivate your wife so that she can be all that God created her to be. You are to help her to blossom

and grow into God‘s woman, not tear her down because she doesn‘t meet your sp e cifications. In addition, you can help your wife become all that you saw in her when you first met her, and which you now think is missing. You need to nurture all the potential she has. This is not to be

A man is to

cultivate his

wife so she

can be all

God created

her to be.

done in a controlling way, but in a loving and giving way, which is the nature of Christ. Perhaps it is your criticism that is preventing her from being the woman you want her to be. Think about it: what pressures are present in her life that are keeping her from being all that she desires and needs to be? Let me say a word here to the young, unmarried men: what are you cultivating? When a young lady comes into your presence, she should leave a better person than she came. She may try to come on too strong, vulgar, like a pros titute. Yet when she leaves, she should walk away a lady. If someone asks her, ―What happened to you?‖ she should be able to say, ―I met a man who told me he wouldn‘t sleep with me. He wouldn‘t degrade me. Why? Because he respects me.‖ Cultivate these young ladies. Don‘t drag them down, and don‘t let them drag you down. A young woman shouldn‘t leave your presence pregnant. She should leave with her dignity and her virginity. Give these young women some good soil. Give them something to make them better. That‘s being a real man. If you are a man, God has created and designed you to cultivate anything you desire, including your family. So whenever a man receives a woman as a wife, he is given the opportunity to exercise his cultivation ability. A man should pray and ask God to show him how to cultivate his wife. He is to water her, prune her, and give her sunlight. He is to add nutrients to her life until she blossoms into the woman she is meant to be. How to Cultivate Your Wife

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